I am a proud advocate of chastity and chastity devices for a number of reasons. I’m hoping that in this post I can clear up the reasons as to why chastity is such a great tool for Femdom as well as help out with some tips on how to make chastity work for you.

Choosing the Right Device: My loser and I have tried out a couple of chastity devices over the years and the best one that we have found so far is the cb-6000. Simply for comfort and its easy wearability for full time chastity. Of course I also have ones like a steel cock cage for more ornamental occasions, but these are not devices that I would keep on my slave for more than a day. It’s important that the device is comfortable for your slave. And no I don’t mean that he absolutely enjoys wearing it, but it does have to be bearable. Yes it will hurt him a bit when he’s getting hard but that’s normal. It should hurt him a bit and remind him of the fact that he is in chastity in the first place. The perfect chastity device will let your slave be able to clean himself properly, go to the bathroom properly (even though he may need to sit down to do so) and most of all should not let him be able to pull out of it.

It is important to keep a close eye on your slave while he’s in chastity. You need to check his balls and penis every so often to make sure that they are okay. One of the devices that I initially tried out on my loser left his ball swollen and red for days after we took it off. So it is important to make sure that the device is not doing any actual damage to him.

Reasons to use Chastity: Chastity is an excellent means for training your loser slave to be obedient. By being the sole person who can unlock his chastity device, your slave becomes very dependent on you and suddenly will see you in a whole new light. You will now be the only person who is able to please him sexually, to allow him to orgasm, to let him have sensation in his penis at all.  Suddenly he will find himself wanting to please you and really spending a lot of time thinking about what he could do to make you happy. It’s not so much the fact that he just wants to be let out to cum, but more the fact that you are the one in complete control over him. He will start to do the dishes without having been asked, will start to give you random massage and in general will seem like a different man! I know all this sounds almost too good to be true, but I am serious. From my experience this is what happens when you use chastity as a means of training your man. And it is not just my experience, there are plenty of articles and forums out there all attesting to this fact. Chastity makes training your man, slave or loser tens times if not fifty times more easier than it is without him being in chastity.

I also find that chastity devices allow me the relief of being sure that he cannot hide somewhere and masturbate. Before we got our device, this is what he would do and when I would find him, no amount of punishments could assure me that he would not go and do it again if he got horny enough. It’s sad to say but a man can be controlled through his penis. Have control over that and you own him.

Tips on Training him: One thing that I cannot stress enough is the fact that you cannot simply lock him away in chastity and then ignore the fact that he has sexual needs and a libido. DO NOT IGNORE IS SEXUAL DESIRES. Ignoring him like that will lead him to hate chastity and to start demanding to be let out. What you need to do is to tease him many times a day. He’s thinking about the fact that he is in chastity all day long, and so you want to remind him that you also think about him being in chastity throughout the day. Simply using your hand to brush against the device while asking him to do something will work. Or saying things with hidden sexual innuendos. Teasing him by licking around the chastity device or licking the device itself is also good. Do what ever you can think of, just make sure that you show him that you have not forgotten about the fact that the device is on him.

Every once in awhile you will need to let him out. Now just because you let him out does not mean that you have to let him cum. You can bring him to the brink of cumming and then let go, stopping all stimulation so that he can’t cum.  You can do this teasing and denial over and over again telling him that he’ll spend so many days straight in chastity is he cums. When you are satisfied, you can let him cum, ruin his orgasm or just put him back into chastity. It is a good idea to let him cum once in awhile to keep him healthy. The longer you both play at this the less he will need to cum but in the beginning it helps to encourage him by rewarding him every couple of days.