I found a good little article that I thought you would all find interesting. Or rather I was reading an article about a slave approaching his Mistress about a mistake that she made and realized how rare it is that we address this possibility. It is an issue that I know comes up a lot and even Goddess Starla has talked about it before in one of her videos. We all know that Goddesses and Mistresses are supposed to be revered as all-knowing and we’re supposed to obey them unquestionably but what happens when Mistress or Goddess is wrong?
A good trick which I do with my own slaves is that I discuss the possibility of me doing something wrong before it actually happens. I discuss with them how I want them to proceed if they feel like I have wronged them in any way or have done something with which they really do not agree. Just because they are my slaves does not mean that I have permission to permanently harm them or to cause them wrong. We use a safe word in instances where they are possibly being hurt far more than they can handle during a punishment and my slaves also know that they are able to come to me with their issues without my reacting badly to their complaints. I will always keep an open ear for them. That being said you should discuss with your Mistress or Goddess what she would like you to do if you feel as if she is doing something wrong. If you haven’t had a discussion like that with your Goddess than there are a few tips that I have for a submissive like you when you are thinking of approaching your Mistress to right some wrong she has done;
1. Think before you speak. Take time to make certain *you* are not the person in the wrong. If after due consideration you still believe she is wrong, then decide how to best approach her. Every Domme is different. I’m pretty laid back about most everything but even I don’t like the blunt approach. Be tactful 
2. Make certain your motive for doing this isn’t to belittle or demean her or to try to make you look better than her. She’ll likely be able to see through the situation and identify any underlying motives.
3. Keep your emotions in check. Emotions are often mirrored so proceeding when you are angry or resentful will likely thwart your efforts.
4. Develop a strong case. You know she is wrong because of a, b, and c.
5. Request permission to discuss the situation with her. “I noticed this and I’m concerned about it. Could we please talk about it?” Be careful not to approach the topic at a wrong time (like when she first gets home from work).
6. Be solution-oriented. If all you are doing is complaining, you’re not being a helpful submissive. Offer the solutions if she asks for them.
7. Say something nice. If you’re going to criticize anyone a good rule of thumb is to begin with a sincere compliment, offer the criticism, then end with a sincere compliment. (Not all in the same sentence of course.) “I know you are someone who likes to always do her best so I thought that this might be something you would like to take a look at.”
8. Be sure and listen to her response. It’s likely that she isn’t the only person in this situation who needs to evaluate their actions/words.
Most of all, be tactful and respectful of her feelings. Hearing we’ve made a mistake isn’t easy for a lot of people but it’s necessary for growth both as an individual and in relationships. With that advice I leave you and hope that you’ll never have to use these tips, although sometimes us Goddesses can be so wrong that it will surprise you!
August 18th, 2010 
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